What To Do When Your Boyfriend’s Asshole Best Friend Says, “Hey, Never Trust Anything That Bleeds For Seven Days And Doesn’t Die,
OR The Only Poem I’ll Ever Write About Periods.
Don’t excuse him because he’s had
at least three lite beers
and is sweating through his black button down
that his mom or exgirlfriend
probably bought him.
Don’t excuse him because he’s been turned down
by the last six girls he went on dates with
after meeting them on tindr
with a picture that’s seven years old
Don’t excuse him because
he’s usually such a nice guy
because you don’t want to be a bitch
because you don’t want to cause a scene
because when you were seventeen
your sister told you
no one likes an angry feminist
Let me explain something to you.
Every goddamn motherfucking month since I was eleven,
a part of me
tore itself to shreds
ripped itself apart inside me
and then remade itself.
So yes, I bleed for seven days
and I don’t die
You know what else can do that?
Things of legend.
Fuck, I can even
So I say, never trust anything that can’t
bleed for seven days and not die.
You know what that makes it?
So let’s see, hon,
What you’re made of.
If you can bleed for seven days
and not die.
Rip out his jugular with your teeth.
And when he bleeds for seven seconds
spit on his corpse and say,
I thought not.
So let’s start with a definition of Cultural Appropriation. Given that it’s a term from social science, it’s necessarily a bit slippery, but let’s take the Wikipedia entry as something of a given:
Cultural appropriation is the adoption of some specific elements of one culture by a different cultural group. It describes acculturation or assimilation, but can imply a negative view towards acculturation from a minority culture by a dominant culture. It can include the introduction of forms of dress or personal adornment, music and art, religion, language, or social behavior. These elements, once removed from their indigenous cultural contexts, can take on meanings that are significantly divergent from, or merely less nuanced than, those they originally held.
So here’s how the pieces fit together:
Cultural appropriation is the adoption of some specific elements [marriage] of one culture [conservative Christians] by a different cultural group [homosexuals].
Seems to fit, eh? Especially if you understand that “marriage” is seen by conservative Christians as something they “own” in some respect. Also take into consideration that Christianity was founded during a time when it was an oppressed, minority subculture, and that it often retains this mindset even when it’s no longer oppressed or even (sometimes) a minority.
These elements [marriage], once removed from their indigenous cultural contexts [conservative Christianity], can take on meanings [gender equality, co-parenting] that are significantly divergent from, or merely less nuanced than, those they originally held [male supremacy, the family as mirror of church or national hierarchy].
Question from Anonymous
Pro life or pro choice?
Listening to a podcast* and thinking about the definition of “privilege”
I know the definition of privilege presented in the podcast was a really quick and dirty definition, and as such I have no problem with it.
The topic of privilege could use some amplification.
Generally speaking, white straight cis-males are held up as the generic privileged class in America. They have all the privilege.***
Being cis-male, for example, generally exempts a person from getting the bullshit that cis-women and transfolk get, much of which is tremendously fucked up. It does not, however, exempt cis-males from bullshit.
And it’s bullshit.
Privilege is a set of self-perpetuating, unearned advantages, or a lack of disadvantages, that pertain to a group of people in an given context, of which they are likely to be unaware.
Privilege is subtle, intersectional, and context-sensitive.
I realize that this could be seen as a “But Patriarchy Hurts Men Too!” argument.**** This couldn’t be further from the truth. This emotional stuntedness that is imposed on boys from a fairly young age is the primary means by which oppression of other groups becomes possible.
And as such, it’s entirely relevant to the welfare of women and LGBTfolk.
** “Majority” could use its own definition here. I won’t digress to go into it.
*** Personally, I would add Christian, attractive, wealthy, able-bodied and neurotypical to that description, but again, that’s a digression I don’t want to go into here.
My feminism will ALWAYS include trans women, women of color, disabled women, fat women, intersex women, poor women, neuroatypical women, and all the other women who are often neglected
Reblog if yours will too (and feel free to include anything i missed)
Sex workers, too, please
My feminism will always include men.